Why I Was Drawn To This Book:
I stumbled across this bright orange baby at my local library. Immediately, I was drawn in by it's saucy title. Also, I recognized the author (MARK MANSON). I remembered seeing his writing come across my screen before and it was good stuff.
By and large this book echo's many of my own sentiments and ideas about happiness, finding your feel good (by accepting when you don't feel good), and the the importance of values and conscious choices. Oh and you are highly encouraged to take all ideas in— consider and review them, then draw your own conclusions.
Overall, the authors voice is masculine, psychology driven with an overall humorous-at-time-absurd tone. I loved it! It certainly isn't the one all be all (it lacks in feminine wisdom) but certainly it presents strong concepts for it's domain.
"Happiness is a Problem." (p.23)
This book echo's the Happiness F*ckery that plagues people pressuring their psyche into feeling different, better than they actually do— this in turn only creates additional distress and suffering.
"The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one's negative experience is itself a positive experience. This is a total mind-f*ck." (p.9)
Why yes, yes it is— I'm with the author on this one.
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*CK is dedicated to uncovering the insidious nature of our attempts to avoid pain and suffering actually directly causes suffering (oooopps) and showing you that by facing your problems you in turn create what you were seeking to begin with (at least kinda).
Next the author argues we all care about something— so instead of yielding your "give a f*cks" unwisely, use conscious energy to decide what you care about.
Saying "'f*ck it', not to everything in life, bur rather to everything unimportant in life... reserve your f*cks for what truly matters." (p.16).
His criteria for what exactly to give a f*ck about is super helpful:
"only care about what is true, immediate, and important."
(I can't find the page # but this really stuck in my head)
Radical Personal Responsibility
I particularly liked the delineation the author made between assigning fault or reason for why something happened and taking personal responsibility for everything that happens (i.e. accepting the problem and working towards resolving it).
The Importance of Critical Thinking
"Aristotle wrote, 'It is the mark of an educated mind to be able to entertain a thought without accepting it." Being able to look at and evaluate different values without necessarily adopting them is perhaps the central skill required in changing one's own life in a meaningful way." (p.143).