loving your shadow + escape the shame spiral

Our job is to love ourselves.

Not just the shiny, good and admirable traits but the rough, gritty, less-than-acceptable ones as well.

To let others love them and ignore the mud slingers of the world.

The dark side emerges every now and again, as it must for us all.

Don't be confused every light casts a shadow. We all share the burden of limitations, sticky zones and struggles.

The shame spiral induced from the shadow is a whole other entity of its own. Shame is a self-elected punishment always eager to contribute

Just for today-

notice your growing edges but don't dwell on them.

Dwelling is a one way ticket to a self-induced hell. One where self-obsession replaces your ability to see, participate in, and enjoy life.

Instead ride the wave. Notice your shadow. Love it. Thank it. And move on. Who you are is flawless, brittle, bold, and all.

I had my shadow to tea today. Turns out she's alive and well. We will be continuing on our adventure together but I won't be swimming in a sea of shame.

We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.

Love is not something we give or get; it is something that we nurture and grow, a connection that can only be cultivated between two people when it exists within each one of them – we can only love others as much as we love ourselves.

Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.
— Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection

Invite me into your sphere.

I'll bring something of substance, every time!

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