Trust. The word sounds and feels so finite, doesn't it?
And yet my own experience shows me that trusting in life, in others, and in myself has been anything but...
To date, I've dedicated much of my life and brain space to understanding how to listen, how to interpret and how to act from a solid intuition, as well as understand the invisible forces at play everyday in our lives.
My conclusion is this....
Trust is a dynamic force.
It must be nurtured in real time.
The bucket you filled six months ago quickly empties, and it must be replenished.
The tiniest (unnoticed) trigger can cause a regression in a solid sense of trust.
And once there's a leak, it grows, commanding your attention and respect.
Thankfully, trust can be restored with awareness, focus, action and an open heart.
The current landscape.
One minute on social media serves up a continual buffet of terrible realities and worthy causes to rally for. (I do hope you are rallying for #blacklivesmatter, yes?)
When you zoom in on your own life, there are certainly real, human challenges you face regardless of your personal privilege. Perhaps these sound familiar...
- How can I sustain what I've committed to / and am responsible for?
- Where will the money come from? Will it be "enough"?
- Where am I headed? (be it a move or a shift in your trajectory)?
- How on earth will this mess work out?
Odds are you are facing at least one of the above questions, if not your own version of one of them. Often, the bigger the obstacle, the more willing we are to pay attention and work towards changing it.
For this post I want to zero in on the subtle nicks and sneaky triggers that unravel our minds and shackle our hearts.
One day you may wake up and realize that your trust in life has dissipated like a pot of boiling water left unattended.
Before I share with you the critical components to continuously fostering a healthy trust in life, I'll first give you a personal example of how I found myself in a black hole of doom.
Depression, a learned habit?
I've gotten really clear that before I ever struggled with addiction as a young adult, I first struggled with a mind that went awry. It's no secret that emotions follow suit.
Even in recovery with an ungodly amount of tools and a library of knowledge I fall into the trap of depression.
It's like a safe zone.
It's doesn't feel good but I know what I'll get when I'm there and that eventually it always returns. For many years I've witnessed my own patterns activate in the most bizarre, unfortunate times.
On the heels of pure joy and great success I often feel extreme sadness.
Because I believe it won't last. It never has.
And so I wait for the other shoe to drop.
Because, you know it will.
Just under a year ago I up and moved to a new city, a new home, to everything new. It was a welcomed, positive move for me and my family but I quickly plummeted into the depths of despair when one thing after another broke or required repair in our new, lovely home.
The multitude of house repairs served as the unconscious trigger that sent me off the deep end into depression.
The anxiety spread furiously, leaving me dumbfounded for a bit. Angry, really.
And so I reached out for help to a few that I really trust and shared my pain. I knew on one level that it wasn't "real" that this was a habitual cycle I was playing out but I couldn't figure out how to rewire my brain.
I devoured books, nursed my wounds, listened to what my heart was asking of me, took some radical risks, and gently walked my way out of the fog.
"The secret to beating any fixed habit is to stop fighting with yourself, to find a place inside that isn't at war. In spiritual terms, that place is the true self... To challenge the depressed response, it's not sufficient to simply go inward. You must activate your real self and bring it into the world."
-Deepak Chopra & Rudolph Tanzi :SUPER BRAIN
The ultimate key lies in accepting the creative power each human being possesses.
That's right, you and me, we are actively shaping our reality. This truth never stops.
What's negotiable is whether we are consciously playing an active role in shaping reality or are we allowing life to habitually filter through our minds, strengthening old unconscious loops?
"Reality making is natural and effortless, while at the same time it is almost beyond belief."
-Deepak Chopra & Rudolph Tanzi :SUPER BRAIN
For me, the link between my habitual depression and cultivating a deeply, nourishing sense of trust in life go hand in hand.
You see, they both require that I accept responsibility over my energy, my actions, and my mind. Perception is everything when it comes to personally experiencing trust.
(Don't think for one second I am suggesting merely shifting your perception is the answer to our world's problems. I'm specifically addressing YOU and YOUR experience of life.)
When you understand and accept that, as a complex human being, you have the ability to transform your perception by being awake, aware, and engaged through subtle tools, energies, and inspired action, your world opens up.
You are free to foster a continuous sense of trust in life and in yourself. Or to give yourself permission to return to this place you so desire.
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